Getting support from people you trust
When you are upset, worried or feeling down, it can help to talk about what you are going through. Talking to someone about what's troubling you can make a difference to how you feel.1
Talking to people you trust can be a really good source of support.2 If you are not comfortable talking to someone close to you, there are other people that can help. Try support lines, services or talking to your GP or mental health professional.
Talking about how you are feeling 1
Talking with someone can help you look at things in a different way or help you to find solutions.
Someone will notice
Sometimes, we expect those close to us to notice what we are going through. Perhaps they haven’t noticed or are waiting for you to share how you are feeling, not wanting to interfere. If you communicate how you are feeling to someone you trust, they are often willing to listen and are relieved that you have talked to them about how you are feeling.
It can be difficult to know how to start a conversation about your feelings or worries.
- Find the right moment for the conversation, when you have time to talk and not be interrupted.
- You might find it easier to start the conversation when you are doing something else – such as going for a walk, doing an activity together, driving in the car together or going for a coffee.
What do I say?
It’s up to you how much you want to share. It’s okay to start by describing how you have been feeling.
You may find it hard to talk to others about your feelings and experiences or may feel nervous about how people will react. However, when you let someone know you need their help, they are likely to respond positively.
If you have already tried to talk to someone or tried to get help and things haven’t improved for you, don’t give up. There is support available, and talking about your feelings will get easier with time.
Try writing down how you are feeling, as this may help make things clearer. Some people find it therapeutic. This information may be helpful if you decide to talk to someone else.
Who do I talk to?
Find the right person to talk to, someone you trust and who you think will understand.
If the person you’ve chosen to talk with doesn’t react in the way you expect, it is not a reflection on you. It may be that they don’t know what to do. Don’t give up, find someone else who can help you.
If you don’t feel comfortable talking to someone you know, consider:
Your Mental Health [Internet]. Dublin (Ireland): Health Service Executive. Talk about how you feel [n.d.]. Available from: http://www.yourmentalhealth.ie/mind-yourself/good-mental-health/feel-well/talk/
Head to Health [Internet]. Australian Capital Territory (Australia): Australian Department of Health; C2017. Seeking support [cited 2017 Dec 1]. Available from: https://headtohealth.gov.au/supporting-yourself/seeking-support